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| Photography By Matthew Takes |
Dear Afrikan Girl
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This is a rant. #postandelete | #sorrynotsorry Let’s get petty betty.
I “perceive” that it is a sin to have big boobs ( . Y . ) according to some people in this world. To others, not wearing a bra is an even bigger sin; one punishable with jibe like “loose woman”, “slut”, and “whore”.
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| Photo Credit : Beyonce Knowles from MediaOutrage.com |
So, I am currently on vacation. I visited the beautiful bay cities of San José, Tracy, Santa Barbara, San Francisco, Oakland among others last weekend. In positive summer spirit, I DECIDED to wear this silky flowery dress from Privilege Paris Clothing; because it was light and comfortable! The weather was literally 105°F (40.5°C)!
A day or two later, I posted a picture on
social media, like I usually do.
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| Screen Comment from my Facebook Fan Page. |
And some of the comments underneath the
photograph really appalled me, to the point
where I had to address my rant on this outlet.
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FACEBOOK COMMENTS IN
RESPONSE TO
THE ABOVE
PIC:
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Screen Comment from my Facebook Fan Page.This  tries to throw shade on my youth
mentorship program in Cameroon.   |
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| Screen Comment from my Facebook Fan Page. |
This one literally calls me
“less than a woman”. Really Romain? 
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| Screen Comment from my Facebook Fan Page. |
This one asks me if “exposing my breast”
( . Y . ) makes me beautiful. 😳😳
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| Screen Comment from my Facebook Fan Page. |
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| Screen Comment from my Facebook Fan Page. |
@Jimmy, like WTF Just happened? 😳😳
Then, look at this one:
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| Screen Comment from my Facebook Fan Page. |
Truth is, not all the comments were bad;
others favored the photograph, makeup or my skin.
But you can imagine my amazement… that some people really
Genuinely think this way in 2016.
That I “intentionally” “expose” my body
for a man’s pleasure.
Look at this guy:
“No one should hide behind summer to give a
rationale for this pic. It’s intentional”.
Kindly Get outta here with that
sexist bullsh*t!
sexist bullsh*t!
I love my fans. I appreciate them, and
I am all about a diversity of opinion and viewpoints.
However, fan or not, I do not allow B.S in my
personal space; including MY page.
My 44K+ Facebook following wasn’t built overnight. While it is an up-and-coming following, Its been cultivated over the years, mostly comprising of friends and fans
who align with the values that I stand for. A big one is RESPECT.
I don’t condone anyone’s need to make
Another feel some type of way about them being
confident about their natural bodies,
skin, hair or figure. 
And so I am going to call out this use of shame to control women and
explain the breast-shaming culture to you; and why it is wrong.
While I don’t expect you to necessarily understand,
or agree with me
On this particular topic,
I openly invite people with myopic, sexist mindsets like this
To kindly unfollow or block my page. 
*Do not confuse my outspokenness with rudeness.
Because I WILL NOT change how I dress.
Neither will I get a breast reduction or wear a jacket all day
To make anyone feel better about themselves.
And, to the one who asks about my mentorship of children,
If my C cup is the reason why you question my mentorship abilities,
then that is something you will have to
make peace with, because I
will not stop anytime soon.
Now that I have said that, and it is off my chest;
let me teach you a thing or two about breast shaming...
